Some wisdom from an old traveler




I was wandering in Egpyt alone, until I met and liked a group of 3 travellers in a local Cafe in Cairo.
They were a polish girl, her mom, and their Egyptian friend. I decided to join them for a trip after chatting and laughing for about 15 minutes. We made a plan to meet in Luxor in 4 days.

I then met another British girl in a hostel who travels the world carrying her Ukulele, and then another Chinese girl living in Russia while diving in Hurghada. I invited them into the trip, together with an Indian friend, "I" became "We".

We met up in Luxor as planned, visited many temples together, dodged(and failed to dodge) some scams, experienced moments like waiting for checkpoint army to take shift so that we could try to pass the checkpoint by bribing them because technically foreigners were not allowed to use mini-bus as transportation. Finally we arrived at a pretty dusty hostel in Aswan, and that's where we met her.

It was an early morning after a whole night of bus ride on bumpy and dark highway road right next to endless desert when we met her. This energetic and gracious old lady, who is, based on my observation, at least in her 70s. She was always smiling and listening, no matter what random topics we brought up, we always found her input into the conversation rather enlightening but not didactic at all.
She had been travelling by herself for years since her retirement from the British Council in Hong Kong, I can't even list out the cool things that she had done. In short, she's living her life well. However she was still very interested in and curious about everything despite her experience.

I loved talking to her, so I always slowed down my pace to walk with her. I remember on a starry night on our way back to our hostel she said to me: "I am in no rush to see everything, I have all the time compared to you young people. When I was trekking in Nepal, young people always passed by me encouraging me, but I just told them, I am just taking my time to get there, it's fine even if it takes me 2 months, because I've got the time and will be there eventually".

All these words are still a shock to me coming from an old lady, sometimes I still don't understand why it seems like we only have "enough time" when we technically have less time.

Months after our encounter in Egypt, I checked in with her when I was living a normal, peaceful and maybe a bit boring life in Munich on a new internship. She was on a bus ride crossing the border of Turkey when she replied.

I took some words from her and saved them in my notes. I feel they are worth sharing here as a reminder to whoever needs to hear them as well.

Enjoy.

Well, normal life is regular, repetitive, not necessarily boring but can lead to that if you allow it ...

Travelling is unpredictable with interesting things intertwining with unexpected problems, and once a while, a whole vista suddenly opens up and transport you out of the regular world

The elasticity of friendships met on the road, the lack of demands and expectations people usually have in a normal set environment

Boundaries disappear

It's a freeing feeling

My latest unexpected problem was that some honey got loose in my shoulder bag. Everything got sticky ..on the night bus on my way to Istanbul

It was grey and cloudy when I arrived and began to drizzle. I had given my bright yellow new raincoat (from HK) to Julien, a Reunion boy you met in Cairo

I tried many many times to get the @#!!! machine at the metro station to accept my money for a metro ticket.

The staff helped a bit, but soon gave up too and left me alone to deal with it

I started to ask locals to help out. And guess what, they also tried unsuccessfully.

Nevertheless they shamed the staff who came over and told me to try with a bigger bill like 100

This happened to me in another Turkish city, with me losing out on the change

So I looked at her coolly in the eye, and said, why is Turkey so difficult?

And that's when the magic started rolling. First the staff got so embarrassed, she waved me in without payment

Then I was well assisted all the way until I reached the hotel

Hostel, I should say

Then the guy let me check in way ahead of time into a private room at the price of a dorm bed because Chinese girls decided to stay on

I had another setback when I spilled hot honey water onto the bed and PJ, after I had showered, cleaned up and even washed the shoulder bag

But fortune continued to be by my side, as the radiator was turned on and slowly everything will get dry

So, my point is, in normal life, these things may also happen but the approach to solution is usually fraught with tension and frustrations abound, because we silly people think there are stakes involved

When we travel, we are set free of these stakes, or we should be if we are smart